True Friend (Review with Pillars)

Feast of St. Marguerite d'Youville

St. Marguerite d’Youville
(1701-1771)

Born in Varennes, Canada, Marie Marguerite Dufrost de Lajemmerais had to interrupt her schooling at the age of 12 to help her widowed mother. Eight years later she married Francois d'Youville; they had six children, four of whom died young. Despite the fact that her husband gambled, sold liquor illegally to Native Americans and treated her indifferently, she cared for him compassionately in before his death in 1730.

Even though she was caring for two small children and running a store to help pay off her husband's debts, Marguerite still helped the poor. Once her children were grown, she and several companions rescued a Quebec hospital that was in danger of failing. She called her community the Institute of the Sisters of Charity of Montreal; the people called them the "Grey Nuns" because of the color of their habit. In time, a proverb arose among the poor people of Montreal, "Go to the Grey Nuns; they never refuse to serve." In time, five other religious communities traced their roots to the Grey Nuns.

Pope John XXIII, who beatified her in 1959, called her the "Mother of Universal Charity." She was canonized in 1990.

Feast Day of St. Teresa of Avila

On Oct. 15, Roman Catholics celebrate the Spanish Carmelite reformer and mystic St. Teresa of Avila, whose life of prayer enriched the Church during the 16th century counter-reformation.

Teresa Sanchez Cepeda Davila y Ahumada was born in the Castilian city of Avila during the year 1515,  the third child in a family descended from Jewish merchants who had converted to Christianity during the reign of King Ferdinand and Queen Isabella. Her father Alphonsus had become an ardent Catholic, with a collection of spiritual books of the type his daughter would later compose herself.

As a child, Teresa felt captivated by the thought of eternity and the vision of God granted to the saints in heaven. She and her younger brother Rodrigo once attempted to run away from home for the sake of dying as martyrs in a Muslim country, though they soon ran into a relative who sent them back to their mother Beatrice.

When Teresa was 14, her mother died, causing the girl a profound grief that prompted her to embrace a deeper devotion to the Virgin Mary as her spiritual mother. Along with this good resolution, however, she also developed immoderate interests in reading popular fiction (consisting, at that time, mostly of medieval tales of knighthood) and caring for her own appearance.

Though Teresa's spiritual directors in later life would judge these faults to be relatively minor, they still represented a noticeable loss of her childhood zeal for God. Alphonsus decided his teenage daughter needed a change of environment, and sent her to be educated in a convent of Augustinian nuns. Teresa found their life dull at first, but soon came to some understanding of its spiritual advantages.

Illness forced her to leave the convent during her second year. But the influence of her devout uncle Peter, along with her reading of the letters of the monk and Church Father St. Jerome, convinced Teresa that the surest road to salvation lay in forsaking marriage, property, and worldly pleasures completely. Against the will of her father, who wanted her to postpone the decision, she joined the Carmelite Order.

Teresa became a professed member of the order at age 20, but soon developed a serious illness that forced her to return home. She experienced severe pain and physical paralysis for two years, and was expected to die when she went into a coma for four days. But she insisted on returning to the Carmelite monastery as soon as she was able, even though she remained in a painful and debilitated state.

For the next three years the young nun made remarkable progress in her spiritual life, developing the practice of recalling herself into the presence of God through quiet contemplation. As her health returned, however, Teresa lapsed into a more routine prayer life. While she remained an obedient Carmelite, she would not re-establish this close personal connection to God for almost twenty years.

When she was nearly 40, however, Teresa found herself dramatically called back to the practice of contemplative mental prayer. She experienced profound changes within her own soul, and remarkable visions that seemed to come from God. Under the direction of her confessors, Teresa wrote about some of these experiences in an autobiography that she completed in 1565.

Teresa had always been accustomed to contemplate Christ's presence within her after receiving him in the sacrament of Holy Communion. Now, however, she understood that the presence she received did not simply fade: God was, in fact, with her always, and had been all along. It was simply a matter of putting herself in his presence, with love and attention – as one could do at any moment.

This revolution in her spiritual life enabled Teresa to play a significant role in the renewal of the Church that followed the Council of Trent. She proposed a return of the Carmelites to their original rule of life, a simple and austere form of monasticism – founded on silence and solitude – that had received papal approval in the 12th century and was believed to date back to the Old Testament prophet Elijah.

Together with her close collaborator, the priest and writer later canonized as Saint John of the Cross, she founded what is known today as the Order of Discalced Carmelites – “discalced,” meaning barefoot, symbolizing the simplicity to which they chose to return the order after a period of corruption. The reform met with fierce opposition, but resulted in the founding of 30 monasteries during her life.

Teresa's health failed her for the last time while she was traveling through Salamanca in 1582. She accepted her dramatic final illness as God's chosen means of calling her into his presence forever.

“O my Lord, and my spouse, the desired hour is now come,” she stated. “The hour is at last come, wherein I shall pass out of this exile, and my soul shall enjoy in thy company what it hath so earnestly longed for.”

St. Teresa of Avila died on Oct. 15, 1582. She was canonized on March 22, 1622, along with three of her greatest contemporaries: St. Ignatius Loyola, St. Francis Xavier, and St. Philip Neri.

In 1970, Pope St. Paul VI proclaimed St. Teresa as one of the first two woman Doctors of the Church, along with 14th century Dominican St. Catherine of Siena

Grateful

There is always something to be grateful for even when life is hard and times are tough.

Everyday is a blessing, and in each moment there are many things that we can be grateful for. The world opens up to us when we live in a space of gratitude. In essence, gratitude has a snowball effect. When we are appreciative and express that gratitude, the universe glows a bit brighter and showers us with even more blessings.

There is always something to be grateful for, even when life seems hard. When times are tough, whether we are having a bad day or stuck in what may feel like an endless rut, it can be difficult to take the time to feel grateful. Yet, that is when gratitude can be most important. If we can look at our lives, during periods of challenge, and find something to be grateful for, then we can transform our realities in an instant. There are blessings to be found everywhere. When we are focusing on what is negative, our abundance can be easy to miss. Instead, choosing to find what already exists in our lives that we can appreciate can change what we see in our world. We start to notice one blessing, and then another.

When we constantly choose to be grateful, we notice that every breath is a miracle and each smile becomes a gift. We begin to understand that difficulties are also invaluable lessons. The sun is always shining for us when we are grateful, even if it is hidden behind clouds on a rainy day. A simple sandwich becomes a feast, and a trinket is transformed into a treasure. Living in a state of gratitude allows us to spread our abundance because that is the energy that we emanate from our beings. Because the world reflects back to us what we embody, the additional blessings that inevitably flow our way give us even more to be grateful for. The universe wants to shower us with blessings. The more we appreciate life, the more life appreciates and bestows us with more goodness​.

A Prayer of Trust

Above all, trust in the slow work of God.
We are, quite naturally, impatient in everything
to reach the end without delay.
We should like to skip the intermediate stages

We are impatient of being on the way to something
unknown, something new;
And yet it is the law of all progress
that it is made by passing through
some stages of instability –
and that it may take a very long time.

And so I think it is with you,
your ideas mature gradually – let them grow,
let them shape themselves, without undue haste.
Don’t try to force them on,
as though you could be today what time
(that is to say, grace and circumstances
acting on your own good will)
will make of you tomorrow.

Only God could say what this new spirit
gradually forming within you will be.
Give our Lord the benefit of believing
that his hand is leading you,
And accept the anxiety of feeling yourself
in suspense and incomplete.


Pierre Teilhard de Chardin S.J.

Grow Great by Dreams

 

28th Sunday in Ordinary Time

Several years ago, someone gave me a children's book, 14 Cows for America, written by Carmen Agra Deedy and magnificently illustrated by Thomas Gonzalez. It only took me a few minutes to read it and it brought tears to my eyes. This heart-warming book tells the story of Wilson Kimeli Naiyomah, a young Maasai man from Kenya studying in the United States who witnessed the tragedy of September 11, 2001. When Kimeli returns to his village for a visit, he tells the villagers the story of September 11 and seeks permission from the village elders to give his only cow to America. The elders agree and offer an additional 13 cows "because there is no nation so powerful it cannot be wounded, nor a people so small they cannot offer mighty comfort."

You may be wondering how 14 Cows for America relates to today's readings.  Our gospel, Mark 10: 17 - 30, tells the story of the rich man who runs up to Jesus, kneels before him and asks, "Good teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?"  After going through the commandments, Jesus tells the man "You are lacking in one thing.  Go, sell what you have, and give to the poor and you will have treasure in heaven; then come, follow me."  We all know this story.  The man walks away from Jesus sad because "he had many possessions."  Jesus looks around at his disciples and remarks, "Children, how hard it is to enter the kingdom of God!  It is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for one who is rich to enter the kingdom of God."  The rich man was not willing to sacrifice his wealth to enter the kingdom.  Wilson Kimeli Naiyomah, on the other hand, was willing to sacrifice his most vital possession, Enkarûs, his cow, to console us, the people of America in our time of profound grief.  

For the Maasai people "the cow is life."  Wilson Kimeli Naiyomah and the people of his village sacrificed a major proportion of their livelihood to help build the kingdom of God.  Their gift sent a message of compassion, peace and hope to all the people of the world.   And it raises a question for us.  How much are we willing to sacrifice to help build the kingdom?    How much of our time, talent and treasure will we share so we can "inherit eternal life"? 

You know, O God, our thoughts and intentions,
and from your sight no creature can hide.
Pierce our inmost heart
with the two-edged sword of your Word.
Enlightened by your wisdom,
and freed from preoccupation with this world's wealth,
may we welcome the presence among us of signs of your kingdom,
a treasure beyond compare.
We ask this through Jesus,
the high priest who sympathizes with our weakness,
for he is with you and the Holy Spirit,
God for ever and ever.

AMEN.

Pope John XXIII

Consult not your fears but your hopes and dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but what is still possible for you to do. See everything; overlook a great deal; correct a little.

~ Pope John XXIII

Feast Day October 11

Pope Paul VI

Beautiful Words

Someone has written these beautiful words. One must read and try to understand the deep meanings in them. They are like the Ten Commandments to follow in life all the time.

1. PRAYER is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble; it is a "steering wheel" that directs us in the right path throughout life.

2. Do you know why a car's WINDSHIELD is so large & the rear view mirror is so small? Because our PAST is not as important as our FUTURE. So, look ahead and move on.

3. Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes few seconds to burn, but it takes years to write.

4. All things in life are TEMPORARY.  If going well enjoy it, they will not last forever. If going wrong don’t worry, they can't last long either.

5. Old friends are like GOLD!  New friends are Diamonds!  If you get a Diamond, don't forget the Gold! Because to hold a Diamond, you always need a base of Gold!

6. Often when we lose HOPE and think this is the end, GOD smiles from above and says, "Relax, sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end!

7. When GOD solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities; when GOD doesn't solve your problems HE has faith in your abilities.

8. A blind person once asked God "Can there be anything worse than losing eye sight?"  He replied: "Yes, losing your VISION."

9.  When you PRAY for others, God listens to you and blesses them; and sometimes, when you are safe and happy, remember that someone has prayed for you.

10. WORRYING does not take away tomorrow's TROUBLES; it takes away today’s PEACE.

Spiritual Hunger

Can it be?

Have I for so long
Forgotten to feed myself?

Yes.

For nigh a year now
I was slowly starving.
Getting lost in busy days,
Tossing aside the hunger
That chewed away inside.

Yet, I did not die.
By some quiet miracle
I made it to the moment
Of truth:

I nearly starved to death.

It was not my body
That I failed to feed.
It was my spirit,
Left alone for days
Without nourishment or care.

And then one day
I paused to look within,
Shocked at what I found:
So thin of faith,
So weak of understanding,
So needy of encouragement.

My starving spirit cried the truth:

I can! I will! I must Be fed!

And then I read John’s gospel chapter 6.

Unfolding the Rose

It is only a tiny rosebud,

a flower of God's design;

But I cannot unfold the petals

with these clumsy hands of mine.

The secret of unfolding flowers

is not known to such as I.

GOD opens this flower so sweetly,

when in my hands they die.

If I cannot unfold a rosebud,

this flower of God's design,

Then how can I have the wisdom

to unfold this life of mine?

So I'll trust in Him for leading

each moment of my day.

I will look to him for His guidance

each step of the pilgrim way.

The pathway that lies before me,

only my Heavenly Father knows.

I'll trust Him to unfold the moments,

just as He unfolds the rose.​

Serenity Prayer

The Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the serenity to
accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

The Serenity Prayer has comforted millions of people who strive to cope with change, disappointments, chemical dependency, and all sorts of other problems. The prayer can comfort us as we deal with the realities of chronic illness.

When we're overcome with pain or disappointed about slow or little progress, this prayer can help us put our lives into focus. It helps us see if we're wasting time and energy on things we can't change, such as the chronic conditions we live with, how others feel, and the past. And just as important, this prayer points us toward the things that we can control -- our attitude, our willingness to change, and the outcome of this day.

Let us pray for the wisdom to recognize the difference between things we can and cannot change

27th Sunday in Ordinary Time

Today's gospel, Mark 10:2-16, focuses our attention on marriage, divorce and children. The Code of Deuteronomy (Dt.24:1) allowed for divorce. However, it was a contentious social and political issue during Jesus' lifetime. There were great rabbinical debates about how to interpret Deuteronomy 24:1. Some rabbis interpreted the code strictly, while other interpreted it more leniently. No matter how the Law of Moses was interpreted, it only applied to men. A man could divorce his wife easily but the wife had no legal recourse. She was nothing more than property. A husband could cast his wife out of her home with nothing. All he had to do was get a written divorce decree and his wife was out on the street. Roman law of the day permitted women to initiate divorce. Jesus contradicts both Roman law and Hebrew law.

Jesus defends the dignity of all women by asserting their important role in the work of creation. And, he tells us that marriage must not be dissolved because the couple is "joined together" by God. The Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches us that, "Man and woman were made "for each other"—not that God left them half-made and incomplete: he created them to be a communion of persons, in which each can be "helpmate" to the other, for they are equal as persons ... and complementary as masculine and feminine. In marriage, God unites them in such a way that, by forming "one flesh," they can transmit human life: "Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth." By transmitting human life to their descendants, man and woman as spouses and parents cooperate in a unique way in the Creator's work" (CCC 372).

Immediately following his discussion on marriage and divorce, Jesus welcomes and blesses children - the fruit of marriage. In today's world, the lives of children are vulnerable. Like women during the time of Jesus, children today have few rights. Unborn children are particularly vulnerable; they have no rights. Yet, as Jesus tells us, "The kingdom of God belongs to such as these" (Mark 10:14).

God, source of all love, 

blessed are you for your tenderness 

inscribed in the hearts of people; 

blessed are you for giving us your Son 

as the token of your faithful love. 

Keep us fromseparating what you have united: 

husbands and wives, 

parents and their children, 

your Son and his Church, 

friends in their joys and sorrows. 

Let us all live in your creative, lasting love. 

We ask this through Christ our Lord. 

Amen

Your Will, Not Mine, Be Done

My will is to play with earthly toys. Your will is to work with heavenly tools.

My will is to be comfortable: Your will is to be useful.

My will is to indulge the flesh: Your will is to build up the Spirit.

My will is to criticize and condemn: Your will is to sympathize and help.

My will is to proudly speculate and theorize: Your will is to humbly study and learn.

My will is to leave the work of the Truth to someone else, while I "seek my own things": Your will is to be "always abounding, sharing that which was given me"

My will is to wallow in self-pity: Your will is to "rejoice always."

My will is to complain about trials and troubles: Your will is to count up all the joys, knowing that tribulation teaches patience.

My will is foolish talking and jesting: Your will is gracious and compassionate speech.

My will is to lay up baubles on earth: Your will is to lay up treasure in heaven.

My will leads only steadily downward, to sorrow and death:

Your will leads ever onward and upward, to eternal life and joy.

"Your will, not mine, be done."

By Bro. G.V. "Rene" Growcott

A New Beginning

Henri Barbusse tells of a conversation overheard in a dugout full of wounded men during the First World War. One of the men had been terribly wounded, and he knew he has only moments to live. He had a friend with him, one who had already seen a bad start to a bad life. He'd made wrong decisions. He'd already served time in prison. In fact, he was wanted, back home, by the police again. The wounded man, the dying man, pulls the wanted man down, close to his face. He takes his dog tag, his ID chain, and presses it in the hand of his buddy. “Listen, Dominic, you've led a bad life,” he said. “Everywhere you are wanted by the police. But there are no convictions against me. My name is clear, so, here, take my dog tag, take my wallet, take my papers, my identity, my good name, my life and quickly, hand me your papers that I may carry all your crimes away with me in death.”

That is the same offer the Living Christ makes to us through his saving death on the cross - and his life-changing resurrection.

Jesus, the Lamb of God, still offers to take your sins to the cross with him. And because of the resurrection, you can take his good name ... Christ ... you can be a Christian ... and live in freedom.

The Snake

There once was a man who, while walking in the woods, found a poisonous snake that was frozen stiff as a board.  He knew it was poisonous, but he took pity on the poor frozen thing and brought it home with him.  He put the snake in front of the fireplace in his living room so it would thaw out.  Realizing that when the snake woke up it would be hungry, the man went into the kitchen and warmed up a bowl of milk so the snake would have something to eat.  He then brought the milk back into the living room to feed the snake.

As the man was putting the bowl of milk in front of the snake, it lashed out and bit him.  Almost immediately, he could feel the venom rush through his veins and he know he would be dead in a matter of minutes.

With his last strength the man looked at the snake and asked, “Snake, why did you bite me?  I found you frozen in the woods and brought you into my home and thawed you out.  I gave you warm milk to drink.  Why did you bite me?

As the man was fading into death, he heard the snake hiss these words, “Stop your whining.  You knew I was a poisonous snake when you picked me up.  What did you expect me to do, kiss you?

The attraction to sin is like that snake.  We may enjoy its company for a short time, but sooner or later, it’s going to bite us.  No matter how nice it may seem, no matter how much understanding we may have, no matter what a good person we are, it’s going to bite us!  And its bite is quiet deadly!​