One of the best ways of understanding surrender is this:
If you’re doing anything that moves you away from God – no matter what it is, no matter how good it feels, no matter how much you like it – stop it!
If you’re with anyone who moves you away from God – no matter who it is – change the relationship! Leave if you must.
If you’re in a place that moves you away from God, leave. Get out of there!
No matter what or who or where or when – whatever moves you away from God, change it!
On the other hand, if something brings you closer to God, it is holy. Do more of it. If someone brings you closer to God, they are holy. See more of them. A place that brings you closer to God is a holy place. Go there more often.
